This post does not go into the medical vs social model of disability. When I talk about disability, I tend to come from a scientific standpoint. Blame the fact that my education and career choice center around science. I support those who recognize the social model of disability, but my topic doesn’t do much to clarify my thoughts or stance. Please don’t misinterpret it.
The other night, my husband told me that since my diagnosis, he has never been happier in our relationship. We had struggled a good time before and after the wedding, and the beginning steps to the diagnosis were taken to improve our marriage. He expressed that my “glitches” finally made sense, and he understands me more. He is able to sympathize in situations that normally left him confused and hurt. More than anything, he accepts me and works with my limitations and weirdness.
If my husband can accept my disability, and therefore excuse my behavior when it can be deemed socially inappropriate or hurtful, why can’t that sentiment be extended to strangers who also suffer from a disability that is also invisible?
Merriam-Webster defines the word disability as:
I know I know. If you’re part of the Autism “community”, you probably frequently see things posted like, “Autism. It’s not a Disability. It’s a different ability”.
Ahem. Merriam-Webster defines the word ability as:
In order to be diagnosed with a disorder, like Autism, one must satisfy certain diagnostic criteria, of which are described as deficits in certain areas of functioning, or a barrier to the cognitive process. Autism is a disability. No amount of cutesy sayings will change that.
The Light Is Too Loud 